In some ways, making up for lost sexual opportunities is often part of a larger desire to ‘feel whole’ or feel complete. As long as you’re protecting yourself against stds and pregnancy, you can do it however it feels right to you (there’s no right or wrong way to have sex for the first time). I wish i could say it was magical and fireworks, rose petals, or candles were involved; but in reality, i was pretty drunk and decided that i just was ready. And now, i feel like i need to enjoy it and embrace it. This post has been updated to explain that oil-based lubes, not silicone-based lubes, can make latex condoms less effective. I know you want your first time to be a beautiful magically experience where the only communication happens with your eyes and some tasteful moaning, but trust me.
Not every vagina bleeds like a stab wound the first time you have sex. So yes, that was me, losing my virginity at 15. We aim to create a safe and valuable space for discussion and debate.